I think a woman wearing high heels is extremely sexy. I like a woman in heels with dresses, skirts, and even blue jeans. I wish my wife would wear them more often. She tells me that they hurt her feet; the higher the heel the more it hurts. Even when I can convince her to wear heels, she can barely walk (literally, like she is drunk) in them in the first place and complains about being in pain 1 or 2 hours into it. I wouldn’t be so confused by this, but I see women who seem to wear heels every day or all day, of varying heights, and walk long distances in them. They don’t seem to be in pain, and they seem to be able to walk normal without any problems at all.
Question 1-3: Is wearing heels really that painful or is my wife just telling me this for some reason? Do they make comfortable heels? Are expensive heels more comfortable than cheap heels?
Question 4-5: If heels are so painful, how can all these other women wear them so high, and so long, and walk just fine? Is there a special way to wear or walk in heels, or a special type of shoe to buy, which will make it better?
Question 6-7: Do you have any suggestions or advice pertaining to my situation? How do I get my wife to wear heels for me more often, if at all, and not complain about it?
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1. Wearing heels is painful at first but usually if you break them in, they’re not too bad. Wearing flats or running shoes is more comfortable though.
2. They do make comfortable heels, you just have to find them. I’m sure they are more expensive…
3. Yes, in MOST cases more expensive heels are easier to walk in and generally more comfortable.
4. Practice.
5. Not sure. I usually walk the same in most heels or flats.. I think?!
6. Nope.
7. Tell her you think it’s sexy. Maybe leave a hint that she doesn’t have to wear them out of the house for hours and hours but just a little bit at home when she’s preparing dinner or when you’re about to have a romantic night in?
Yes, heels are painful. Yes, cheap heels are MURDER. Ugh. If she’s trying to wear heels from Payless or something, no wonder she gives up after a couple hours.
Women (like me) who wear heels 24/7 try them on, break them in, and buy more expensive ones that are made of material that don’t hurt as much. Also, use gel insoles for comfort. If there is a spot that rubs your foot, attach “moleskin” that you can buy at any drugstore.
Your wife would wear heels if they were more comfortable, so if let her spend more money on the good ones.
And, btw, YOU try walking around in those things. They’re difficult. Cut her some slack.
1) yea it is pretty painful
2) ive never found a pair of comfortable ones personally.
3) doubt it. i have an expensive pair and they still hurt to wear
4) because some ladies are use to it and they dont care how it feels, they want to look nice
5)nope. no special ways to walk without looking like there is a stick up your butt. but you can buy things to put in the shoe to make them a little more comfortable
6) dont make your wife wear what she doesnt want to wear.
7) dont expect her to wear them for day to day things. maybe just to parties or other big events.
why don’t you try wearing them for a day…and then talk to her about your feelings on wearing heels.
I have noticed three reasons women complain about heels:
1) Cheap heels. Poorly made, inexpensive shoes are not comfortable. I can wear my Louboutin’s almost anywhere, all day, and never be bothered.
2) Fitness. If you are out of shape, it can be difficult. You’ll notice that dancers, who are in great shape, wear them all the time.
3) Attitude. Many women just are not comfortable looking sexy, for whatever reason, so they mentally sabotage the effort. Does she like to wear sexy, revealing clothes, besides heels?
I wear very high heels almost every day, all day, and feel sloppy and uncomfortabe without them.
1. For some women who don’t have much experience walking in them it can be extremely painful
2. They make heels that I think are comfortable and claim to be comfortable but she may never be comfortable in any pair
3. YES
4. They have experience, strong calf muscles, and they are just used to it.
5.Your wife is probably upset about this too, all women wish they could wear heels all day and look sexy and be comfortable, make her feel better by telling her she looks sexy barefoot and in whatever shoes she wears. But you could try buying dr. scholls inserts.
6.oops reread number five
7.You really can’t, dude its up to her.. have a little simpathy.. they hurt her, do you want your wife to be in pain just so you are happy?
You can get “comfy” heels but they are genereally not the nicest-looking shoes and I’m guessing you have something like stilletto heels in mind. You can get really nice high heels for relatively cheap from shops like New Look and Topshop or in sales and i don’t think they’d be any less/more comfy than other heels.
All women are different, maybe the women you see walking in heels are more used to them than your wife is or they have a different foot shape which makes it easier for them to walk in heels. You can get many things to stop the pain caused by heels such as Party Feet.
You shouldn’t force your wife into doing things she is not comfortable doing, especially if it is causing her physical discomfort, but you could try going shopping with her and maybe telling her she would look nice in a certain pair of shoes and offering to buy them for her? It’s more of a compliment that way. And if you do manage to get her to wear them tell her how nice she looks in them.
Hope I helped
heels reallt are painful!
i aint never heard of a comfortable heel
other women are hurting they just dont show it
suck it up, u married her u should think she looks w/out heels
1: When they are brand new, they do hurt and its hard to walk in them but once they are broken in they are comfortable. She is probably telling you this because she doesnt like wearing them and isnt used to wearing them.
#2: heels that are 2″ and below are called pumps and they are comfortable because they are low, but not too low to the ground.
#3: Expensive heels are probably more painful because they tend to have a skinny heel to them and its hard to keep your balance with a skinny heel.
#4: most women that wear heels develop strong ankle muscles, so they can stand in heels all day and it not bother them.
#5: When you walk in heels, its different from when you walk in tennis shoes because you have to really be careful of how you step or you could fall and twist your ankle. you have to take a stride, almost like a cat walk but not that fast.
no, but they do make shoe cushions for the heel and toe so that it is more comfortable
#6: instead of having her wear a high heel, have her wear wedges. They are like heels but have more support and feel like a tennis shoe and they still make you look sexy. When she’s ready to get out of the wedge and into the high heel, she will transform. It will take time for her to get comfortable with the height and thats what wedges do.
ugh am only 14 lol and i wore heels to my prom and omg lol after a while of wearing them yeah ur feet do start to hurt i just wanted to take them off already
espeacllay cuz i was dancing lol but yeah i just kept them on (:
and no matter how expensive im sure they all hurt after a while
i guess other people can wear them so long because there use to them or maybe there not always standing up. and nope theres no speacial way lol and i guess buy ur wife heels that arnt that high ..the lower the less pain =) and no dont complain about it tooo much (:
1 It varies from woman to woman and the shape of their feet, make of shoe etc. My mum can’t wear heel at all but i practically live in them.
2 A good pair of heels can be very comfortable for ME that doesn’t mean that your wife will find them comfortable too.
3 Price doesn’t always matter either i have a pair of high heels on at the moment that i bought for £12 and they are very comfortable and i also have a comfortable pair that i bought for £60!?
4 Answered above really. All woman have different shaped feet. To be honest though i used to wear trainers all of the time but i don’t think that was coz i found heels uncomfortable it was just coz at the time i preferred trainers.
5 No
6 Maybe see if she will try a kitten heel which is a short heel to start then work her way up.
7 If she still finds them too uncomfortable then i don’t think there is anything you can do. You don’t want her to be in pain surely.
Why are you trying to change your wife? You didn’t know that she didn’t like heels? There are so many factors that can determine if heels are comfortable. Personally I love wearing heels but have had to cut back recently due to pregnancy. You could let your wife take you shopping and go along gladly, let her pick the types of heels to try and not cringe when the comfortable ones cost 200-300 dollars. Totally agree about putting gel pads in certain heels. Breaking the heels in around the house a couple of different days over a week or two before wearing for hrs helps. Also, the women you see wearing heels all day have been doing it for yrs not slipping heels on occasionally.
Your wife obviously doesnt like wearing them.. for whatever reason.
she probably feels more comfortable in flats.
I think depending on how often you wear heels whether they are painful or not, I have been wearing heels for ages and even when i was 12 i would wear a pair of heels for an occassion or even if we were just going out to dinner. she needs to get used to them, but some shoes can be paticulary sore. .the higher the more painful. Are her shoes the right size? I tend to have to use a size higher in heels because that makes them a lot more comfortable. And yes, expensive high heels are a lot mroe comfortabke then cheap, no branded ones.. like Jimmy Choo and stuff are better quality. Maybe you should take her to get her feet measured for high heels and also designer high heels.
Probably because they have had more experiance, they wear them a lot or they just feel the pain and carry on walking. There isnt actually a specific way to walk in heels.. but when you walk normally you oput your heel down first and then step onto the balls (by the toes) of the foot.. when wearing heels its best to step so you go down on the toes first and then back onto the heel. There are no types of shoees specially to buy for people uncomfortabke in high heels. Maybe it hurts your wif ebecaus ethe sides and backs cut into her, so as i said before, buy her the next size up or purchase from the wide feet section.
The only other thing to do is buy those gel cushions especially for wearing heels so they are a lot more comfortable. and another thing to do to encourage her is tell her you think she looks sexy in heels and it turns you on or whatever.. and when she does next wear them (dont tell her your gonna do this because you’ll seem stupid) when you get home and ready for bed..just give her a foot massage or something like that.
However, i think that your wife just wont budge. shes probably NOT going to wear heels.
and also.. without being rude or anything.. just wondering about your obsession with heels.. you seem to be going through an awful amount of trouble just to get your wife wearing heels.. maybe you have a foot fetish? and a shoe fetish? they are completely normal.. you look at womans feet and their shoes rather then say their boobs or bum.??
good luck. hope your wife begins wearing them
There are heels that are extremely comfortable are ones that are very thick in width. The skinny ones are less stable. Even platform wedge ones are really comfortable too.
Some people wear gel insert inside them which helps too. Yeah leather is a lot better than synthetic materials and they stretch to the shape of your foot. So expensive ones are a lot better.
Get her to go to a shoe designers where she can talk with the designer or shoe maker and make it a more personal experiences. She gets to pick the design and leather and colour/style.
Some women find high heels much more painful to wear then other women. I can wear heels for hours quite happily without much effect on my feet, one reason I think is because I’ve done ballet for 12 years and am used to going on tiptoe! Many of my friends struggle to even wear small heels for more than an hour! Usually a more pricey high heel will be more comfortable than a cheap heel, as usually the inner soles are much better made.
Walking in heels well and for long periods of time needs practice! To try and get your wife to wear them, start with small heels just wlaking round the house until she gets used to them- tell her she looks extra sexy in them too! Hopefully after a few weeks she’ll already be strating to get used to them! You could also buy her a pair of really gorgeous heels that she can’t resist wearing as well!
I will tell you about my experience with heels, but cannot answer for other women. I am a heel lover and have been for as long as I can remember. I wear suits for work, about 75% of the time with a skirt, and dress pants the remaining time. I wear a heel on my one foot and usually use crutches.
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I know that it is painful to some women, fortunately for me it is not
Mine are comfortable, she just needs to shop around. I have found that heels around $60 tend to be more “wearable.”
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Since I have not experienced pain, except after about 14 hours in a 4″ stiletto, I cannot answer about being in pain and making it look easy. Walking is just like flats, heel on the floor first then toes. Naturally, pumps being closed might be more comfortable, but I love strappy sandals that show a lot of my foot and toes.
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This is something that you and she need to tall out. I think that she would enjoy your telling her of your appreciation of her lovely foot in a heel, but that you don’t want to put her in a painful or uncomfortable situation. And, I am not trying to sound like super lady because of my situation, just giving my point of view. I hope that you and she can come to an agreement. Good luck.Email me if you wish.